A Teenage Suicide in Singapore

     On 15th May 2011, Krystal Mizoguchi was found dead beside an HDB block in Ang Mo Kio. The cause of death was suicide. She was only 18 years old. Born to Japanese and Singapore parents, she came from a single parent household when her parents  divorced when she was very young. Obviously teen suicides in Singapore are again on the rise, and she had kept a blog where she had described herself as a typical teenager, full of angst. When I reading her blog, in hindsight, I felt, that apart from a psychiatrist, I could not distinguish whether she was just venting her daily frustrations or really reaching over a 'tipping point'.

     I managed to read the last few entries of her blog, and it spelled out how she felt she was a loser, and called her results a 'failure'. She did poorly for her PLSE (Primary School Leaving Examinations), messed up her 'O' levels and 'xxxked up' (her words) for her 'A' levels. As such, she missed the cutoff for her desired course in the Polytechnic and  making it into the National University of Singapore. She cited her poor results from school as her major failure in life. 

    The news report also stated she had some 'relationship problems' probably with her boyfriend or family but did not elaborate. 

     As a father of two teenage boys, I can attest that the education system in Singapore does indeed stress every child academically. The boys have to juggle with school work, CCA and social time, plus family outings on the weekends plus many distractions from their time nowadays such as the social media, Facebook, Twitter, MSN, Skype and what not. Its a far more complex a life they lead than what I or my peers lived through when we were teens in the 70s. We only had colour TV, a Macdonalds (1 only in Singapore), movies and simple plain fun in 1976-1980. Life was uncomplicated and unfettered then.  

     However, seeing this sad story above must remind me and all the readers here, that althought academic results  are important, the aim of getting a degree is also important, having a sense of self-worth, a stable and supportive family, friends one can confide in, religion, and an optimistic outlook are MOST IMPORTANT. There are several non-profit organisations one can turn to if one is deeply troubled like Samaritans of Singapore with 24 helplines but the issue of face in our Asian society is always our major stumbling block. Who wants to admit they screwed up, or messed things to gigantic proportions ? But bear in mind, we all are humans, and humans make mistakes.  

     "It takes a village to raise a child" - African proverb ; still so relevant today.

    In Krystal's case, her failure to enter the local University caused her to spiral to depression,plus (possibly) parental neglect and relationship problems may have resulted in her taking this drastic action.  It will be go down as another sad statistic in our increasingly complex and stressful world we now live in.  What a waste.   

In Germany for a week of presentations, meetings and socialising

                                                   At the townpark in Giessen in 2009

I am back in Germany for 6 and 1/2 days for meetings, presentations, discussions and rounds of social dinners provided by our gracious principals, Weiss of Germany. This is a once every year affair, where all the agents from all parts of the world are invited to share their experiences in the sales, after sales and service of the world renowned brand which is practically the top brand name of its niche industry.

My companies (previous and present) have been honoured to be their sole distributor for the Weiss brand for close to 20 years (18 actually) and we have seen the many people, whom we treat as our distant and not so distant family every year as we share the ups and downs of selling the product in our respective territories.

Stay tuned for more posts on Germany this week.

An impressive new politician is born - Nicole Seah

  Presenting Ms. Nicole Seah, the youngest female candidate contesting in the 2011 elections at Marine Parade GRC under the NSP banner. Pretty, fresh faced, articulate and passionate about her views, she is what I would classify as a true Singaporean who cares enough to put her life under the intense media spotlight and stand up for her causes. She is very exceptional because at this stage in life, many young people, men and women (I daresay myself too) are more interested in partying and having a good time, shopping and travelling, so someone like Nicole is indeed making waves and identifying with the younger Singaporeans who are generally viewed as politically apathetic. On the ruling party's side, there is a Ms. Tin Pei Ling, who is 27 years old and has been involved in grassroots work for some 7 years.

Every person, whether they are from the ruling party or the opposition, has to sacrifice their personal space and put their entire lives under public scrutiny for the greater good of the civil society. For their conviction, taking action and standing up, they have my utmost admiration.

James Dean ; A Talent Gone too Soon.

Watch the acting of young James Dean, he had a raw edge, a very haunted and painful face, and was great talent. He died in a car crash in 1955 aged 24. A loss for many people who enjoyed his acting.

Stay Focussed and Persist - Life's Story to Achieving Something

                                              Tomorrow's leaders : Noel, Alex and another Cousin

During the course of this week, as I challenge my mind and body to run and get conditioned, I am basically following the steps to achieving things :

1. Set a goal, the more ridiculous or difficult, the greater the allure or attraction
2. Tell everyone about it ; So that when the time comes, you either back down and lose face or your do it
3. Set about doing the goal, break it down to smaller goals so that you can slowly move it forward
4. Maintain a attitude ; STAY FOCUSSED, PERSIST. This is the key to achieving anything
5. Take the knocks or setbacks with a sense of the whole objective in mind. Say, this pain is only temporary, the achievement or satisfaction which comes ultimately is yours from then on
6. DO IT WITH NO FEAR OF FAILURE, OR GOING BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD.

Do it now ! Time is running fast away.

Long Live Rock and Roll

Chuck Berry doing his classic Johnny B. Goode. Rolling Stone Magazine, the most influential rock and roll magazine of the last 50 years, ranked this song as No. 1.

The new kids nowadays, they know nothin'. Justin Beiber and company, you are not even in the same league as these legends. Long may they live.

Johnny B. Goode - Back to the Future

This clip is taken from Back to the Future which features a classic Rock and Roll song, Johnny B. Goode.
First popularised by Chuck Berry in the '50s and early 60's this song features a young Michael J. Fox and his acting is superb. Unfortunately he was struck by Parkinson's disease at a relatively young age and his acting career slowed down after the 3 films were done. Fortunately, he has made a comeback in the last 10 years with his Michael J. Fox Foundation and has been the spokesperson to tackle head on this disease. I must say he is a real life hero with a never say die attitude.

Enjoy this clip.